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Familiar but Fresh…Mix with Outsiders

Posted by David Ward on 15/04/2025
Posted in: Bible, discipleship, Mission, Personal thoughts, Relationships, Spirituality. Tagged: Bible, Christianity, Church, Faith, God, Jesus, on the edge, outsiders, sinners. Leave a comment

Jesus…shot back, “Who needs a doctor: the healthy or the sick? Go figure out what this Scripture means: ‘I’m after mercy, not religion.’ I’m here to invite outsiders, not coddle insiders.”
Matthew 9:12-13 MSG (quoting the prophet Hosea 6: 6)

How do we define an “outsider”? Is it someone who doesn’t fit in to our group or our culture? Is it someone who chooses to keep themselves to themselves, to not mix or join in? Is it someone who thinks or acts differently to the way we thing people should, someone who’s just not respectable, or who’s lifestyle is anti-social?

In my case being a bit of an outsider has recently resulted from a simple geographic move of 64 miles, which has also meant moving from one country and culture to another. For 16 years we lived in a village in The Scottish Borders and have recently moved back to a small town close to Newcastle in England. Now you’d think that as theoretically both areas are part of the UK that things wouldn’t be so different, but in reality some things are done differently each side of the border. Add to that the web of relationships and familiarity left behind and it’s very easy to see how a simple thing like a move might turn you into an outsider for a while at least.


In the Jewish world of Jesus time, outsiders were easily classified…if you weren’t Jewish you weren’t in! The religious authorities also classified the degree of people’s outsider-ness…some people were worse than others.

And Jesus chose to mix with them all…foreigners, women, children, collaborators, adulterers, tax-collectors, corrupt politicians, prostitutes and sinners of all kinds…were all worthy of his company and his love.

I don’t seem to spend much of my time in the company of the kind of people that Jesus seemed to spend much of his time with, and moan a bit about trying to fit in at church…and to be honest, I find it really hard to befriend people who are not like me!


Even as I typed that last sentence, I was reminded of times when I have been an outsider, even in my family and church community, sometimes because of the life I lived (positively, I hope) and sometimes because of the people I stuck up for or cared about.

I was the only follower of Jesus in my family, which sometimes caused friction as I was growing up. I remember my parents saying they wished I was like everyone else on a number of occasions. Then when I was in my early twenties there was a time when I didn’t really follow Jesus for a while…my parents said they wished I was the way I used to be!

There was the time I stood up to the well-educated elders in church who disqualified a builder from leadership because he ‘wasn’t educated enough’, and the time when we were hounded out of a church because I supported and encouraged women in leadership and ministry. Or the time when I was sidelined because of being divorced and remarried (more of that in a future post), and criticised for believing that Jesus could love gay people (I think they said, “How dare you suggest that my Jesus could love such filthy people!”…’their Jesus’ must be different to the one I know).

Jesus lived freely and lightly with the people around him (and promised his followers could too…another future post), and didn’t seem to be picky about who he associated with. It sounds as if children loved to be around him…that says a lot.

The only ones who struggled with Jesus were the religious and powerful. Come to think of it. It’s often been those people who’ve struggled with me too. I hope that despite that, I’ve tried to associate with them, finding reasons to rejoice in our similarities and respect the things we disagree on. I’ve sometimes enjoyed the company of people who have no faith or are of a different faith and respected mine, more than I have the finger-pointing people who say they’re followers of Jesus but spend their whole time ticking boxes to decide who’s in and who’s out, which is not really our job anyway.

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Familiar but Fresh…Simple Prayer

Posted by David Ward on 14/04/2025
Posted in: Bible, Personal thoughts, Prayer and liturgy, Solitude and silence, Spirituality, Spititual Practices. Tagged: 24-7 Prayer, Bible, Church, Faith, God, Jesus, lectio 365, Prayer, Sermon on the Mount, The Message//Remix: Solo. Leave a comment

“Here’s what I want you to do: Find a quiet, secluded place so you won’t be tempted to role-play before God. Just be there as simply and honestly as you can manage. The focus will shift from you to God, and you will begin to sense his grace.
Matthew 6:6 MSG

Jesus modelled a life of simple, honest prayer, springing from his relationship with the Father. Sometimes he prayed publicly, sometimes in solitude. In Luke’s gospel, one of the disciples sees him at prayer and asks the question, “Master, teach us to pray just as John taught his disciples.” Jesus answers by teaching the prayer that has become known as the Lord’s Prayer.

When Matthew was arranging his memories of Jesus’ life, he puts this teaching on prayer into the record of Jesus’ teaching we call the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew chapters 5-7). You could say that this was a summary of all Jesus’ teaching about how to have a close relationship with God, a relationship that affected all other relationships.

When it comes to prayer (having a two-way conversation with God), Jesus focusses on the difference between simple prayer and showy prayer, between honesty and hypocrisy (hypocrisy’s Greek roots are about pretending to be what you’re not or play acting).

The Message version really brings out the contrast between the two types of prayer:

Simple prayer is about:

  • Finding a quiet secluded space…not being on show
  • Not role playing before God…being yourself
  • Being with God honestly and simply…not trying to impress
  • Switching focus from ‘you’ to God…what does God want to talk about?

Showy prayer is about:

  • Turning prayer into a drama…impressive speeches and gestures
  • Not being yourself…trying to impress God and whoever else is around
  • Using formulas, programmes and advice…”pray this way and you’re guaranteed 100% success!”
  • Using techniques to twist God’s arm to give you what you want…it’s all about me, me, me.

As I read this passage, and thought about it I quickly became aware that the longer I’ve been a follower of Jesus the more I’ve been tempted towards showy prayer. At the moment I’m trying to simplify the way I live my relationship with God, so this was a good thought!

It also raised a number of questions:

1. Is it wrong to pray out loud, in the gathered church meeting, at public occasions and so on?

My general reading of the gospels reminded me that Jesus often engaged in both kinds of prayer…public and private…so it seems to be less about location and more about attitude. Am I praying with honesty and humility because I want to find out what God wants in this situation?

2. For many years I’ve used a daily office, Celtic Daily Prayer (CDP), to guide my life of prayer. And what about Lectio 365 and all the other wonderful prayer resources from 24-7 Prayer, or using Spiritual Disciplines…do these count as formulas, techniques, programmes and advice?

This one really made me think. What counts as honesty and simplicity? There have been times when because of the way I was, the only way I could drag myself into God’s presence to pray was by using CDP, and I was often amazed at how God met me. I think there’s a difference between structure that builds helpful habits, or resources that help me pray more knowledgably and honestly, and self-serving techniques and formulas. It’s all about what motivates…is it about growing our relationship with God in a way that also blesses others, or is it about what I want with little regard for what God might want to do?

I also just want to put this out there…dare I say sometimes my prayer times become a bit stale (I’m still human!) and at times like this changing the structure of the way I do my regular, daily prayer really helps. Of course, I also pray at other times during my day…I love to share the good and bad bits my life with God, and the Holy Spirit (who hasn’t been mentioned before in this post) often opens my ears and eyes to notice things that God wants me to pray about and helps me with what to say too ( including “making prayer out of our wordless sighs, our aching groans” when we have no words…Romans 8:26-28 MSG).

I also love the wording of the model prayer Jesus taught in the Message version…so fresh! I’ll close with it:

Our Father in heaven,
Reveal who you are.
Set the world right;
Do what’s best—as above, so below.
Keep us alive with three square meals.
Keep us forgiven with you and forgiving others.
Keep us safe from ourselves and the Devil.
You’re in charge!
You can do anything you want!
You’re ablaze in beauty!
Yes. Yes. Yes.

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Familiar but Fresh… K. I. S. S.

Posted by David Ward on 10/04/2025
Posted in: Bible, discipleship, In the Media, Spititual Practices. Tagged: Bible, Christianity, Faith, God, Jesus. Leave a comment

It’s not the politest of acronyms, but it does the job really well: K.I.S. S…Keep it Simple Stupid. Sometimes we have the knack of taking things that were never meant to be complex and failing to keep them that way, which is I guess, a bit foolish.

Take the label “Christian”, originally used in the city of Antioch (modern day Antakya, in Türkiye) to describe the “Little Christs” as the early church took root in that place. We’re not certain whether this was used as a compliment or as an insult, but today the word Christian has, in some contexts, become quite toxic. The media are full of stories about the latest abuse by clergy, the latest high profile Christian leader to be caught out and, in certain places, the alignment of some Christians with right wing, nationalistic politics.

My friends in the Northumbrian Collective have been blogging on the theme, “Are we still ‘Christian’?” in response to some of this. You can read the blogs HERE if you like.

Anyway, as I pondered what it means to be a follower of Jesus (my preferred label) I kept coming back to the thought that I’ve made my relationship with God through Jesus so much more complicated than it needs to be.

I’ve been a follower of Jesus for a long time now…over 60 years…and maintaining this relationship with God doesn’t seem to get any easier. I still struggle to pray and read scripture sometimes, I don’t love God or others as much as I even want to…to put it plainly I still don’t feel I bear much resemblance to the one I claim to follow.

But there’s one other thing I remember, and remembering, I keep a grip on hope: God’s loyal love couldn’t have run out, his merciful love couldn’t have dried up. They’re created new every morning. How great your faithfulness! I’m sticking with God (I say it over and over). He’s all I’ve got left.
Lamentations 3:19-24 MSG

Out of my desire to simplify how I try to grow my relationship with God I dug out my copy of The Message//Remix: Solo. I wanted to get to know Jesus again through the pages of the Gospels, but the words in most versions are so familiar that I find it too easy to skate over what they’re saying. So, I thought the almost raw language of The Message might help, despite it’s frequent words and idioms from a culture not my own (come to think of it, the New Testament was written and selected in cultures not my own too…it’s so hard to keep it simple!).

The Message//Remix: Solo sets out to guide the reader through the practice of Lectio Divina. You READ, THINK, PRAY and LIVE a short bit of the Bible. It’s not a prescriptive way of reading, with copious notes and commentaries. Rather it creates space to hear from the Holy Spirit through the written word in a very personal way…what is this saying to me at this time in my life and relationship with God.

I’ve been surprised and challenged at the things that jump out at me from the text each day…the familiar has become fresh! In future posts I hope to share some of the things I’ve viewed with fresh eyes.

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