When all this happened 18 years ago, the man decided that he would not go public on the events surrounding the breakdown of his marriage and the subsequent divorce, partly out of respect for his ex-wife and partly because the children had no idea what had gone on.

In the meantime, the children have grown up and have partners of their own, the ‘developing relationship’ flourished and the man re-married. The second marriage has proved to be lasting and strong; he has truly found a loving and loyal wife.

A conversation with a member of the church of the ‘if only we’d known about your circumstances’ variety, following the failure to be appointed as the church’s part-time pastor, got the man thinking, and the last 22 blog posts have been the fruit of that. They are very much told from the man’s perspective, which is probably fair enough, and he has tried to be honest and fair about the part his ex-wife played in the story.

Several postings prepared in draft have been left out, because even now there are some things better left unsaid.